ftrouslan is like that kid you meet once in your small upper-level course where there's only like 12 kids and everyone pmuch gets to know eachother and you hang out with some of the guys/girls sometimes but the moment you meet ftrouslan you know 100% you never want to even interact with him again but fuck man its a 12 person class so you end up seeing this kid like everyday and he fucking slows down the class with autist questions and like ya, sometimes slowing down class is cool, but when its so stupid and its just shit he asks to masturbate his own mind right there in front of you like by asking leading questions that he already knows the answers to like, "well, wasn't Robert E. Lee recruited by Washington before the war, and promised the AOP (uses obnoxious acronyms for shit like Army of the Potamoc just to get that last little bit of in-class-mind-masturbation jizz out) but declined Lincoln and ws put to work by Jefferson Davis who had Lee just digging ditches and fortifications around Richmond, which gave rise to his nickname as the "Shovel General"?" and man he fucking sucks in class but as I said u gotta see him everyday and chances are he sits next to you and he makes little shitty snide jokes soft enough that they're 'to himself' but loud enough for you to know that he wnts everyone to hear him and jesus fucking christ
like do you really want to start a new relationship with a girl you like with "hey just fyi i've been banging this girl that i don't like and don't find attractive because i can't control my sexual urges btw i think she's crazy too"
yes lol, she basically guilt tripped me into agreeing to go.
We started out really well, no commitment nothing, then she started hinting at a relationship and I've been dodging her questions, I talked with her when we first started and told her I wasn't ready for a relationship and she agreed to being FWB instead. I barely text her, she texts me 6 times a day, sends me nudes while I'm at work minding my own business so I have to be cautious opening up my phone to not get fired lol.
Here's what I said about the song:
(by the way, she is stupid and her English is awful - one of the myriad reasons I won't date her)
Her: I listen to one of ur songs lol. and wow. getting better .
Me: Haha nice which one?
Her: Hmmm, persevere one, so a girl? lol
Me: The second part of that was a freestyle lol
Her: Lol oh. I do like to listen lol not only the beats, the words too lol
Me: Yeah haha, I told you've gotten better
Her: So the girl area? It was a freestyle. lol,making sure
Me: All of it was about girls
Her: . U and ur girls song. lol.
she can go on thinking it was about her if she wants but at least I don't have to deal with her thinking I'm in love with her too since I know she's in love with me and she's been trying very hard to get me to break the rules of FWB and start dating but I don't have any plans of doing that.
Am I right in thinking I should tell the girl I'm planning to date about the FWB? That way she's prepared if she gets any crazy messages from her
I realize this was said jokingly, but... "guilt tripped", what the fuck dude? You're saying she "forced" you to go to that concert. Considering how you're painting her here, it's pretty obvious she's not in the position to force you into anything. Stop acting like a victim.
Maybe instead of "dodging questions" you'd actually speak up and make your intentions clear? Did it not annoy you that your "FWB" pact is one sided? Has it not crossed your mind before that a problem like the one you have now will arise (pretty fucking obviously)? Are you too busy acting passively so that you can dodge all responsibility and just tell yourself "well, she was FWB for me, not my fault she thought otherwise"?
Are you trying so hard to prove to us that she's stupid/psychopath/bad (by posting so much colorful, but irrelevant details) in hopes that we will agree with you, thus justifying your actions before yourself? Need some compassion for all that suffering the free pussy brought you, and some approval so you don't feel so unconfident as you break up with the psychopath fool that you so enthusiastically painted for us?
Surely if enough people say what you're doing is right, it must be right. And if it goes wrong, it wasn't you who took the decision anyway. What a great spot to be in... when you're spineless.
bareblar03, on 02 July 2013 - 02:43 PM, said:
I don't have feelings for her, I just feel bad shitting on her because I'm all about treating women with respect no matter who they are, even ones that I was just having sex with
You obviously don't because you've been fucking her all this time, knowing that "she's in love with me" and that you're gonna get rid of her, yet decided to just ignore it. You did this knowingly, dodging and ignoring as much as you can, so when shit hits the fan, you can complain and blame the girl, the circumstances, or anyone but yourself really. You're even dodging and ignoring posts implying your responsibility in this very thread, it's comical.
"Respect"? There wasn't any respect in the first place, you'd shit on her if it got you soundcloud subs and ask her to stay subbed too. Stick to using "fear" as your main motivator - this chick potentially killing you isn't plausible, but at least it isn't as pathetic as talking about respect to a person after posting 3 pages of slander about that person. Besides, she's someone from your immediate surrounding - intimate, even - if she's so bad, what does that make you?
It is common to pretend to be a saint as well as a victim - "suffering" from being kind, helpful, generous, etc - but respect is on the very bottom of the list of virtues you should pick from if that's what you want to do. Or you could stop being a sleazy fuckbag, take responsibility for your actions (or inactions), take matters into your own hands, do what you feel is right, and stop posting shit.
I need to do it in a way that she'll understand my reasoning and not set out a hit man to kill me.
bareblar03, on 02 July 2013 - 03:39 AM, said:
upsetting FWB and having her try to stalk me down and kill me because I'm certain she would.
bareblar03, on 02 July 2013 - 04:14 AM, said:
Well should I imply the possibility of still being friends? Would that be wrong of me?
What the hell? Has someone changed the definition of "friends with benefits" lately? What happened to no commitment, no emotions, no strings attached? One (possibly both) of you has been doing FWB wrong.
Not to mention that this entire thing goes from "there is nothing wrong with her" to painting her as a psychopath stalker and a real life threat, and then to looking for the most creative way of keeping a subscriber on soundcloud
not sure if everyone is trolling with all these 10/10 ratings, but here's my take on the situation. does she look good? yes, she does. but 10/10? fcuk no. if we're gonna say 5/10 is average, then she's a solid 6.8/10. let me explain, starting with the top, and working my way down. first of all, her hair looks really thin - it lacks thickness. in case you didn't know, thin hair signifies nutritional deficiencies, especially in certain vitamins. that's the first turn off. secondly, look at the goddam size of her forehead. its way too large for her face. eyebrows look ok, but obviously they have been cleaned up, any woman can do that. eyes are definitely too far apart. nose looks wierd. she could definitely do with a nose job. the bridge of her nose is narrow, but the base is very thick, and you can clearly see a ridge in the middle which sticks out too much. going back to the eyes - you can tell she uses eyeliner, because her eyes are very bland. i think she was born with a medical defect in her inner eye shape, because they appear to be quite thin. and her left eye is further away and slightly off line, in comparison to her right eye. so clearly. she lacks facial symmetry. her skin tone is hard to judge from this photo - because of make up obviously. u can easily tell she has a case of forehead acne, even in this pic. her teeth look photoshopped white, and her cheek bones might be symmetrical, but they lack fullness. chin is way too narrow and sticks out at the bottom too much. her shoulders and rest of her body look way too skinny. she is too tiny, she needs to eat more food. i bet u could see her nasty ribs if she wasn't wearing that top. now don't get me wrong, i still think she is above average looking, but she's not a 10, no f'n ways. just a regular looking sloot imo, nothing really special about her. i don't know what all the fuss is about.
well i the money i spent right now is just for the sake of spending it really. i mean i dont need to spent 50€+ a night out on weekends.
Well I'd get out of the phase of spending money just to spend money before moving out... Then again moving out will pretty much force you to do this, or you'll be homeless.
I can't really give you advice because I don't know much about your situation but I can tell you where I went wrong.
I pretty much had it made when I started University. About $1500 from my highschool for graduation awards, a scholarship that covered my full tuition, $1000 in bursaries, 8k in the bank from working my ass off all summer and then I got 10k (borrowed) from the government.
I had to pay for residency which was $5500.
That left me with $15000 left to live on for the rest of the year, which to be honest was enough to probably carry me through the rest of my studies if I kept my scholarship (which I didn't).
Instead I was a retard, blew most of the money on partying/drinking insane amounts of alcohol (I gained 45lbs freshman year). Yea it was awesome and fun...but was it worth it? No.
I went from being in olympic level of shape to a fat slob (well I didn't look fat but I felt like shit). The following years at university became harder. I didn't have any disposable income, hated my degree and considered dropping out.
Anyways, I know I was an extreme case but it is very important that you manage your finances. Try to cut spending wherever you can because even if you feel you have enough money now, you may not in a few months.
Another note, I wasted so much money in highschool on vehicles. If I could go back I wouldn't spend a dime on a car. I went through 6 cars by the time I went to university...total waste of money.
------- If I were you I'd ride the free boat, living with your parents, as long as that's bearable for as long as possible. Save all the extra money you can, not for "moving out" but to invest. Compound interest is very fucking powerful and I wish I had started investing earlier. So many young people ignore savings early in their life when that is the most important time to start saving. Invest $50 000 now and it will grow to $850 000 by the time you retire. When you have established a career and you are making some good coin, then move out.