hey guys, was wondering if you had more tips on how to be more open and outgoing in conversations
I've got a few good friends, but I wanna be more social and outgoing. speaking to people outside my normal social group feels really weird and is usually a hit or miss, though the hits make the misses worth it. I overthink and I find it hard to just get a "feel" for just talking and joking around (BANTER LADS BANTER)
for the last three months, I've been all smiles and I've really done a good job on turning people that I really didn't get along with into friends, but I still just feel left out and uncomfortable with the majority of people. I don't know how to spontaneously talk about things outside of school with people I'm not friends with already, or leave people feeling engaged, and I'm not sure what I'm doing wrong.
It will feel awkward as fuck until it doesn't anymore. That's basically it. Just keep engaging in conversation.
Remember, actually having a life helps too. Do tons of stuff, read tons of stuff, keep up with the news, have hobbies etc. Chances are most people will have a common interest with you if you have a lot of interests.
I know tons of people in computer science that can trouble shoot through code and manipulate it. I mean, that is primarily what you are learning from that degree. You don't need to write the code for fucking chrome to be able to manipulate it/figure out problems.
I'm a geologist and I remember having to write and manipulate some of the existing code in ArcGIS to overcome a problem I was having. I sure as hell wasn't involved with the development of that application, nor was I even well-learnt in python.
Imagining you trying to find a job.
>prospective employer: We need you to test for bugs/problems in "x" software"
>you: Sorry dude, didn't write it. Can't help you out. You stupid or something? Lol idiot, check the manual.
I dunno if that statement holds true anymore. There are tons of retards in school now since it's the "thing to do". Education can do a nice job to mask stupidity but people always reveal their true colors.