Picture is from the shelter, doesn't really do him justice of course.
Breed all we know is some sort of terrier/sheepdog + other things so he's kind of mystery mutt.
I was a bit concerned about the size 'cause he's smaller than our ideal weight range probably - will be around 15lbs they estimate - but we made the obvious mistake of meeting him at the shelter and that was pretty much game over and we couldn't leave him there.
We met his foster, who was apparently a fairly experienced volunteer foster person and fostering his mom when she had him in a litter and she told us how great he was and the most mellow and sweet of the litter.
It's kind of amazing how dramatic the mood change in our house is atm, last month was pretty bad since our dog died and then my grandpa died. This guy is extremely therapeutic and is making it pretty impossible to stay gloomy.
Anyway this is a terrible corny post but I had to share.
Edit: A couple quick photos from our digital camera(bad quality but w.e) -
I agree with you on trust, but honestly does everyone just blindly trust overnight, or is trust something that should be earned? Where do you draw the line?
I probably could do with getting more confidence in some areas, but it's such a catch 22 - if you've always experienced something, or a plethora of things from certain people and situations, you either blame yourself or blame the perpetrator (I do a mixture of the two) but it then becomes almost impossible to move forward on it. For example cheating - I can blame myself and completely overhaul my outlook, force myself to feel vulnerable and uncomfortable, really push myself to get over the old trust issues and give the new person a chance, make all the changes the cheater told me I needed to and those I self reflected on, but then it could happen again thanks to something outside of my control. Or the other way, where you entirely distrust the other sex and don't get involved in anything committed again, but then you never have the chance to make progress and miss out on potentially good things. Plus you will have moments where you're insecure, because that's just natural and human. On top of that, if and when it does recur, it takes you even further back.
I think when you experience certain things, it can change your outlook and leave scars, making it very hard to relax and "go with the flow".
Then you're faced as a woman at least with a lot of ideals that you need to look, talk and act a certain way, and told a substantial amount of your value is placed on your aesthetics, and I just wonder is it worth it.
Pretty much goal body for me right there (with a slightly bigger chest ofc, but the rest is legit). Though I'd most likely have to cycle for it and I don't know if i can be arsed to trade in my natty card yet :/
Wait, I didn't realise this the first time I quoted this. But why do you think you'd need to ride a bicycle to look like that?
I know I would never in my life "share" a guy, if he so much as sits messaging a girl he has a history with he's out on his ass quicker than he can press send. It's different for all people, but I think being unfaithful in any manner is disgusting, and that's a two way street by the way. If I'm in a relationship, I'm not going to sit texting an ex, or probably not any guys at all really so why should he? I think it's a very select group of women you're talking about, rather than the majority, I know very few who would be happy outside of a monogamous relationship. Obviously a masculine guy is hot as hell, but that for me also constitutes being faithful, protective and providing (and I don't mean providing in the financial sense either). If a guy is there to fuck but not there when I need him, or not able to hold an intelligent meaningful conversation, or make me laugh, what use is he to me?
Those women are idiots. I apologize on behalf of my sex.
The thought of a guy just staying with me for sex and looks (lol) is horrible I'd like to think he'd enjoy my personality, humour, hobbies etc. If we do wind back the clock and generalize then all women are looking for a life partner, he's not going to stick around for long if he just wants looks and sex.
Nympheu, on 12 April 2014 - 03:20 PM, said:
Maybe you're right. I've been stung in the past by unfaithful guys and each time it's been a girl they've had a history with so I have some insecurities there. To me it feels like keeping a back up hanging around, and if there has been attraction it can always reignite. I just don't trust it, and wouldn't if faced with it. It would make me highly uncomfortable.
Nympheu, on 12 April 2014 - 03:41 PM, said:
No I get what you mean, it's something I've thought about myself, and even asked them. It's a pretty extreme feminist idea to think that it all lies with the guy. I mean who wouldn't wonder? All I managed to get out from them in the aftermath was either that they were "too young to settle down" and had changed their mind about staying monogamous (but would stay fwb if I wanted... gee thanks!) or the opportunity presented itself and they faltered in the moment, it was exciting to them and I wasn't even considered (niiiiiiice), plus the obligatory apologies/tears etc. I *think* one was still in love with his ex, but after he fucked me over I didn't care enough to find out. I also keep stumbling into this idea that guys are supposed to sleep around, and they can't help themselves etc. Seems like bs to me.
Obviously I now have very little contact with the opposite sex, bar a couple of guys, except the mutual flaming on AJ and stamping on 11yo boys in 1200rated arena.
This is not universal, and part of why I think sex & looks isn't just what keeps men or women around. I've walked away from a guy who made me physically tremble to be around he was so attractive because when he spoke his ideas and opinions were so boring and vanilla I could hardly follow what he was saying.
You're very demanding, full of yourself, and insecure at the same time.
Who the fuck are you to tell me who to text with? Am I supposed to not do something just because you don't? If "I don't, so why should he?" is really a valid argumentation to anything at all in your mind, it's no wonder you get ditched without a consideration - you must be a pain with intrusions like these. Please step down from your pedestal and acknowledge that you're pretty far from a 'dazzling personality' to be setting an example, and even if you were, you still wouldn't be deciding what I should or should not do because that's not what dazzling personalities do.
Oh and you consider this a manner of being unfaithful? Are you serious? You probably assume that before even reading the texts as well, right? You obviously have a problem with trust, that is the reason you keep talking about faith and trust in every single post. Even the POTENTIAL of some old (!) relationship "reigniting" makes you shake in fear, and that fear displays exactly how much you actually doubt your boyfriend/lover/whatever. You ironically BECAME that "back up hanging around", because you acted precisely like one. That was your mindset.
You gotta think less for other people, mind your own life more and trust. Trust genuinely, not fucking check who he's texting with. Hope this helps.