is getting laid a bad thing?
no, it doesnt
you're being extremely fucking dense and everyone is just being nice
equating pua with getting laid is severe retardation
ayra and buglamp made the two most important points itt.
first, ayra saying that the general mentality of the pua artist is not to establish a healthy relationship, but rather to fill a (perceived) void which in actuality only exists because you are unfulfilled with your life
then, buglamp saying something about the methods... it's extremely predatorial. a whole bunch of assumptions are made, this is the basis of pua. then from those assumptions you deduce concrete advice for action.
instead of being more spontaneous, you will be reliant on advice. all pua communities are essentially big hugbox circlejerks. instead of being more natural and comfortable around women you are driving towards a relationship of inequality.
it's all bro-science, self-fulfilling prophecis and machismo bullshit. it caters to losers, oddballs, social outcasts and to the blue eyed. if you want actual good advice then just listen to ayra.
i don't 100% agree with him, but if I get the gist of it he's saying two things: in order to have a healthy relationship/sex life, you first need a healthy relationship with your self, a good amount of confidence and self-respect.
second, when you actually are an interesting person with passions and something to say, then the magic will happen on its own anyway. you don't need cheesy pick-up lines or advice, everything just comes to you naturally. that has been my experience, too. people will be drawn to you because you're a genuinely interesting person. that doesn't just go for women, just in general.