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[spoiler] Hodor

26 May 2016 - 08:40 AM

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Do you have male camaraderie in your life, junkie?

03 May 2016 - 01:49 AM

https://en.wikipedia...ki/Male_bonding


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In ethology and social science, male bonding is the formation of close personal relationships, and patterns of friendship or cooperation between males.

In the context of human relationships, male bonding is used to describe friendship between men, or the way in which men befriend each other. The expression is sometimes used synonymously with the word camaraderie. The first widely noticed use of the term was in Men in Groups (1969; 2004) by anthropologist Lionel Tiger.

Male bonding takes place in various locations such as gyms, locker rooms, sport fields or courts, fraternities, and barbershops. Anthropologists at Germany's University of Göttingen found out, by studies on the Barbary macaques (an ape which exhibits humanlike social behaviour) that spending more time with other males relieved their stress levels and reduced stress-related illnesses, and may do so in humans as well.

I can't say I really ever have had a good sense of this. I played sports but never really became close with my team mates - maybe 1-2 friends. Also went to summer camp and they divided us into animal named groups, but I was more popular with the girls than the guys - even those in my own group.

One year at camp I kind of screwed my chance of good relationships up because of the canoeing though(I thought ramming people with my canoe was amazing but they didn't care for it), but the year before I had no excuses.

I can sort of appreciate the whole male camaraderie thing in media where it's romanticized to some degree but I've never really been a "bro" type IRL.

Decided that my favorite emotion is something like calm

28 April 2016 - 02:44 AM

Was watching Inside Out (I cried repeatedly) awhile ago and it got me into reading about emotional psychology again so that's why this is on my mind.

So... calm. Serene, peaceful,. Not sociopath style dead inside kind of calm obviously. And not overly contemplative.

Apparently this is a "happy" feeling / derivative of happy, categorically. I prefer it to what I normally think of as happiness though.

Anyway, I've decided maybe I should seek it out, albeit that sounds a bit off but sometimes fighting for peace works despite what I read in the bathroom stall at my highschool.

So I ask AJOT; what are things that help you become calm?

I was thinking about trying yoga(again) and meditation. I used to be in way better condition mentally and physically when I did yoga.

The trouble with this kind of stuff is that probably the majority of stuff related to it is useless and/or overly steeped in vague nonsense and it's very hard to take it seriously.

And the goddamn voices of people who guide you through it are usually just tangibly trying too hard to sound like gurus or whatever.

Prince died

21 April 2016 - 08:41 PM

Kinda sucks. I liked some of his music and whatnot. Now I'm going to have to try to avoid listening to it for awhile just to not be one of those people. Fuck.

Imp of the Perverse

15 April 2016 - 09:12 PM

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The Imp of the Perverse is a metaphor for the urge to do exactly the wrong thing in a given situation for the sole reason that it is possible for wrong to be done. The impulse is compared to an imp (a small demon) which leads an otherwise decent person into mischief.

I find myself getting uh... recurring "Imps"? Recurring perversions? Wondering if you guys have similar things going on.

Examples -
  • Riding in a car, if a window is open I have an urge to throw things out of it - usually like my MP3 player.
  • When I see girls with skinny arms I imagine breaking them.
  • Imagining jumping from high places - is probably a common one.
  • A weird desire to just throw glass objects such as bottles.
  • Fire Alarms/Exits, so tempting.
  • Sometimes I feel like bear hugging random people, this one might be due to something else like a lack of physical contact doing weird stuff to me, not sure.

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