Ouch. But for real if I move somewhere where I had no friends I would find a golfing buddy or a drinking buddy I couldn't stand just not having a friendly relationship with someone
It's a weird topic to talk about. It's really something you don't realize until you're not alone anymore.
I was very popular throughout highschool and had a large amount of mates, friends and bros. Played semi-professional football and was in athletic academies etc. Basically the breeding grounds of bro and lad culture.I was the typical jock if that is a thing in England. However when I first finished high school I went straight into work I pretty much lost all of this and spent my days playing WoW etc. Eventually losing contact with my friends. I didn't even notice that I didn't have this (granted I still talked to people on Skype etc) but I had 0 friends and 0 mates (people you occasionally talk to) and was pretty much a loner. I assumed this was fine and actually just substituted my lack of real life relationships with books, tv series's, games and other internet bullshit. I was blissfully unaware for most the time I spent alone however every now and then I'd see something on TV or online of a bunch of lads having fun or just men hanging out and it would hit me that I literally don't have a single friend. I always thought that was wrong, however I'd just end up fapping to a
thread and shit posting and the feeling would go away.
When I hit 20 I realized that I'm kinda pissing my life up the wall and decided to go back to the gym and get in shape, I met some cool guys there who I bonded and played sport with, this in turn motivated me to actually drag my ass back to Uni/get a decent job/get girls (I had not had sex or even kissed a girl at that point for almost two years). What I understood is the moment I started making friends and surrounding myself with positive male influences and competition so to speak I began to push my self to become (in my opinion) a much better person. The few years I spent basically on 4chan and WoW 14 hours a day I pretty much fucked up all my social skills and become disjointed from the real world. I seriously believe that if I did not make any new friends at the gym in the first few weeks I went I would have just gone back to existing and not actually having a life. Personally
I believe that these sort of friendships (male only circles) or atleast a positive male best friend is crucial to becoming a well rounded and functioning adult. No I do not mean functioning as in a robot or wagecuck/slave mentality but just to harbor decent social skills and motivate you to actually get the fuck out of bed/your computer chair.
To put it simply. It is not romantised in any way, shape or form. Sure we can all live alone but without it you end up turning out pretty damaged/beta (for lack of a better word). Yes correlation is not always causation however the very moment I started making friends I started making a shit ton of positive changes in my life and now I'm somewhere where I'm relatively happy to be. Lately I have been cutting down my friend circle though and only hang out with around five guys. All of which train like me, are self-employed or in decent grad jobs and travel a lot with me/love pulling a cheeky foreign bird (=====
Longest post I have probably ever wrote lads.
Vocoroo with a few extra words kids : http://vocaroo.com/i/s1LWJy64whIz
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Edited by Ayrasaurus, 04 May 2016 - 08:25 AM.